dell XT hd replacement

I'm having a tough time replacing the hard drive in my dell xt. The hard drive (a pata 80gb) started stuttering so I had a replacement sent out. The replacement has a cable that is a female connector and my connector from the motherboard is a female also so it won't connect. My original connector had sensitive copper pins that I broke when doing this install so I can't use that one. Anyone tried this install?

My questions are. The part they keep sending out is a JN190. Are there two cables or only one. The dell guys are confused

 

http://support.dell.com/support/edocs/systems/latxt/en/html/parts.htm#wp1142309

I take it you need the part labeled 1 in the second diagram? Is that the part that you broke? Is the fact that you don't have this particular part the problem here?

It looks like JN190 is the name for this particular part, and there should only be one interposer. Does JN190 not work?

 

JN190 is a female connector. I need a male one. Unless part of it is stuck on my motherboard.